Personal Development

There are a few truths to living a happy successful life and one of such truth is the realization that - IT IS NOT DIFFICULT TO GET BETTER OR TO MAKE A CHANGE. To be that which is desirous; an improved version of YOU!

Everyday and ever so often, technology discovers new ways to improve itself. Our smartphones get smarter, our TVs, automobiles (cars) and gadgets get more interactive etc. Whenever this happens, there is a worldwide scramble to acquire and own these smarter technologies. They become more attractive and very desirous with every announced improvement. Everyone wants to test, explore or own one. They get talked about, written about, sought after, admired, loved and handled with the most care etc. These technologies; simple machines and gadgets fashioned by man and improved to such standards that they daily ‘live’ a quality of life most people can only dream of. Now this I found interesting and brings me to thinking :) 

Everyone desires to live a better life BUT not everyone who has expressed this desire realize that to live a better quality of life, a better you is required - A mandatory and conscious investment in Personal Development or growth.

“Everybody wants to be somebody nobody wants to grow”- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

If you don’t invest to improve yourself as an individual, chances are you won’t be liked much by many. If you don’t invest to improve yourself at your job, chances are you will get passed over often for promotions. If you don’t invest to develop your gifts and talents, chances are you won’t achieve success. If you don’t invest to improve your skills in life, chances are you will be dissatisfied with life.

Personal development is not about grooming or physical hygiene neither is it about designer labels or expensive lifestyles. Personal Development is a growth from within. It is about self discovery; knowing and creating who you are or who you want to be.

“Know thyself means this, that you get acquainted with what you know and what you can do” - Menander

“Personal Development includes activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations” - Wikipedia

At the level of the individual, Personal Development includes the following activities:

Improving self-awareness

Improving self-knowledge

Building or renewing identity

Developing strengths or talents

Improving wealth

Spiritual development

Identifying or improving potential

Building employability or human capital

Enhancing lifestyle or the quality of life

Improving health

Fulfilling aspirations

Initiating a life enterprise or personal autonomy

Defining and executing personal development plans

Improving social abilities

Much like our smarter technologies, it is imperative to constantly look for ways to improve oneself. If you are not living the life you want, if you are not getting ahead at work, if you are not getting the results you want from your relationships etc it would follow that you are most likely not doing the things you should and need to do.

Scientists and technologists spend hours, days, weeks, months and years looking for ways to improve science and technology for solution, effectiveness and efficiency. Translate that to an individual who is highly invested in Personal Development. He/She constantly evolves to become an attractive entity, firmly equipped to create and live a desirous and fulfilling quality of life. They are individuals ahead of the pack; the high achievers, the confident personalities, in touch with humanity, successful and living the great life!

Personal Development starts with a decision and a conscious commitment to growth. To be and realize the best that you can be at all times and to experience the best life possible for you.

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Love is Tough - A passionate reminder...

There is an explosion of sexual recklessness today. Is anyone teaching our adolescents sexual restraint? Or have we just sat back and let uncontrolled demons out and about? 

When our teenage sons cannot find their female peers to express their sexual desires with, desires picked up from TV, internet, unrestricted magazines etc. (because their female age mates are now more interested in older men than boys their age), what do they do? They turn to younger babies to satisfy their wanton desires; our innocent and precious 2 to 8 year olds who are too young and too weak to resist or snub them. 

Are things falling apart? YES they are. We need to halt, step back and assess things oh! It is not enough to say you are raising your own kids well. Well raised kids will go out to the wider society and meet with kids that were not raised well or not raised at all. We are heading for trouble. 

Parents, we need help. Allow teachers, allow other parents, allow the community to help you raise your children. It was so in the past when my mother could depend on a friend's mother to pull my ears and send me back home if I was inappropriately dressed or, reprimand me if I exhibited bad behaviour in public. Not so now. It's the kids raising the parents today. Teaching them the ''in-thing'', and parents who are supposed to know better, falling for the ''in-thing''. What is this ''in-thing''? Since when did the in-thing raise a complete and balanced individual?

Do you realise that a teenage girl who is dressed provocatively might be the reason why a teenage boy somewhere is struggling with his own body reactions? And when he does not know what to do with his desires, he finds something or somebody to make it go away? Because ultimately what he needs is a source for sexual gratification? 

We need to stop whispering these things and begin to take personal responsibility for these children. We need to go back to participatory community development. We need to save our youth, and we need to save the future because that's where our children will be when we are gone. Ultimately, every parent's desire whether they realise it or not, is to raise children who will cope and survive this world when dad and mum are not there to make it easy for them. 

Now, step back and assess: If you are not there, will your children make it good? Arm these kids with what is necessary for survival. First, God's word. A firm introduction to that ONE standard which if they follow, will never fail them. It is the compass they need. And then follow with strict parenting. We are taking too many things for granted, and we will pay dearly for it. 

Don't turn a blind eye to what your kids are getting up to. You are a parent!!!!! Love is tough!

Written by Kandibe