There is an explosion of sexual recklessness today. Is anyone teaching our adolescents sexual restraint? Or have we just sat back and let uncontrolled demons out and about?
When our teenage sons cannot find their female peers to express their sexual desires with, desires picked up from TV, internet, unrestricted magazines etc. (because their female age mates are now more interested in older men than boys their age), what do they do? They turn to younger babies to satisfy their wanton desires; our innocent and precious 2 to 8 year olds who are too young and too weak to resist or snub them.
Are things falling apart? YES they are. We need to halt, step back and assess things oh! It is not enough to say you are raising your own kids well. Well raised kids will go out to the wider society and meet with kids that were not raised well or not raised at all. We are heading for trouble.
Parents, we need help. Allow teachers, allow other parents, allow the community to help you raise your children. It was so in the past when my mother could depend on a friend's mother to pull my ears and send me back home if I was inappropriately dressed or, reprimand me if I exhibited bad behaviour in public. Not so now. It's the kids raising the parents today. Teaching them the ''in-thing'', and parents who are supposed to know better, falling for the ''in-thing''. What is this ''in-thing''? Since when did the in-thing raise a complete and balanced individual?
Do you realise that a teenage girl who is dressed provocatively might be the reason why a teenage boy somewhere is struggling with his own body reactions? And when he does not know what to do with his desires, he finds something or somebody to make it go away? Because ultimately what he needs is a source for sexual gratification?
We need to stop whispering these things and begin to take personal responsibility for these children. We need to go back to participatory community development. We need to save our youth, and we need to save the future because that's where our children will be when we are gone. Ultimately, every parent's desire whether they realise it or not, is to raise children who will cope and survive this world when dad and mum are not there to make it easy for them.
Now, step back and assess: If you are not there, will your children make it good? Arm these kids with what is necessary for survival. First, God's word. A firm introduction to that ONE standard which if they follow, will never fail them. It is the compass they need. And then follow with strict parenting. We are taking too many things for granted, and we will pay dearly for it.
Don't turn a blind eye to what your kids are getting up to. You are a parent!!!!! Love is tough!
Written by Kandibe
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